Everybody needs a "why", here's mine:
Let's Discuss the Bitch Tattoo...
If we've ever met or you've seen me speak, you've probably seen this tattoo on my right bicep, here's how it came to be. I was 20 years old and just couldn't have been more frustrated with trying to meet girls and have a relationship... clearly.
In short, the tattoo is about realizing when you're giving too much of the wrong thing to someone else. When guys got this tattoo with a girlfriend's name, they were guaranteed to break up soon after. I felt that was because he tried to give her his skin, something she had no use for. So she had no appreciation for the gift and he gave up something he critically needed for his own existence.
This felt like a metaphor for an error most "nice guys" often make with someone new. They go all in, super fast and though it may be mutually fun to start, he usually outpaces the girl with his excitement and commitment and almost any girl will run.
Then, he's left standing there feeling like's got a hole in him from having given up something he needed to exist and without it, he's useless to anyone else. At this point, he's mad at her, blames her and thinks she's a bitch while inside knows he somehow messed up and sold himself out and feels like a bitch for it.
Thus, the tattoo was born.
Oh, The Good Ole Days...
This was me. I was smiling and I've always liked to joke around, but I was a butterball growing up and being overweight was no fun ride. It killed me on the inside and I lived in a bad neighborhood where other kids picked on my all the time for it.
Sure, I eventually grew out of it. I learned to hit the gym, eat better and make being in decent shape a priority. But, it took me years to shake off the feeling inside that no matter how I looked to someone else, this picture is who I felt like when I approached someone new.
Recognizing the difference between how we present on the outside and who we actually feel like on the inside is a huge piece of seeing our truest self, scraping off any old negative imaging that holds us back and building a you that YOU are proud of and proud to share with others today.
Wasn't Slugging Yet...
I played Little League for 2 years when I was 11 and 12 years old. I went to every practice, played in every game and got up to bat at least once if not twice a game, every game. But, do you want to guess what my batting average was? Go ahead, take a good guess...
Zero. Yes, I batted .000 over the course of two seasons! Why? Well, because I didn't know it, but I wasn't playing baseball for fun, I was playing in hopes that if I got good, other kids would like me. Yep, I swung for the fences every time because I felt so behind socially, I thought I needed a homerun somewhere to fix my overall picture.
Unfortunately, what I didn't know then was swinging for the fences meant taking my eye off the real task right in front of me: making contact with the ball.
Sometimes in life we need to forget about the homeruns and focus on the most important basics like great contact. Contact leads to connections and that's what life is really all about. If you take your best swing at just making enough solid contacts, the homeruns will happen on their own.
We Can Get YOU There!
No matter where you're coming from or where you are in your relationship journey, if you're willing to do the work, I can show you the way. That's my motto and I mean it. You see the pics of the kid above. It's been no easy journey getting myself to where I am today, but if I can help that kid, I can help you.